Dating and Disappointments: The Other Side of Singleness-2005

The Other Side of Singleness was written while in graduate school almost 2 years before I met my husband. It was written in the midst of a confusing and chaotic friendship with a guy I thank God I was not ordained to be with. It turned out to be a prayer for my future spouse. Definitely a piece that helps me appreciate him now :)

…I trust God to take me to the other side of singleness…but I wonder if I can make the wrong choice or end up with someone that I am not ordained to be with. Oh how I LONG to be with the love of my life—the man who’s company I will enjoy for a lifetime, who I desire to be with, under whose vision I can submit and with whom I can work with and love. Lord, I fear that I could give in to something less than that and be subject to a life wondering if I could have received what I desire. Lord, You know the desires of my heart. I want a man who I can love…love for every aspect of his regular self.

His laugh, his smile,

The way he eats, the thoughts he thinks,

The way he rolls, how his spirit grows,

As he rightly divides the Word of Truth.

His eyes, his hair

The clothes that he wears…

The way he looks at me, his piercing stare.

The fragrance of his cologne.

Hmm, his company when I feel alone.

The tenderness of his kiss, the way I constantly miss him.

His strong hands, the demands of his work,

Faithfully dedicated to what God has appointed him to do.

His drive—oh, it makes me feel alive and a part of a greater calling—

He stalls before he makes a decision. We seek God together with accuracy and precision.

We counter division and God makes provision.

We operate as one as God has ordained. We seek God’s guidance the same.

Our relationship with Christ Jesus sustains us.

We remain in His will and are still as we wait for His direction.

In retrospection, I praise God and my heart overflows with joy.

For all my life I’ve desired love like this, and here it is right before me.

I love you, ______________, and I pray our love grows stronger as we seek the kingdom together.

Love,

tia

Lyrics by tia 2005